The "Your Money or Your Life" framework
Based on Vicki Robin's classic book, the idea is simple: your job costs more than your salary shows. You give up TIME (commuting, prepping, mental decompression) AND MONEY (transit, parking, work wardrobe, convenience lunches, stress-coping purchases). The "real" hourly wage = your real, post-everything return on the total time you give up for the job.
Typical results
- Remote job with no commute: Real wage โ 75-85% of advertised
- 20-minute commute, moderate work expenses: 65-75% of advertised
- 60-minute commute, business attire, corporate city: 50-60% of advertised
- 90+ minute commute, daily parking/toll: 40-50% of advertised
Why this matters
When comparing job offers, most people compare sticker salaries. A $85k job with a 60-min commute might be WORSE than a $72k remote job in real hourly terms. This calculator makes that comparison visible.
Common decisions this changes:
- Whether to move closer to work (often huge real-wage boost)
- Whether to negotiate remote days (1-2 remote days/week = 15-25% real raise)
- Whether a "better" job across town is actually better
- Whether buying work-clothing is a tax-free benefit (spoiler: W-2 workers can't deduct it)
Hidden costs most people miss
- Decompression purchases: Takeout because you're too tired to cook, weekend splurges to "recover"
- Opportunity cost of commute time: 2 hours/day commute ร 5 days ร 50 weeks = 500 hours/year that could have been sleep, exercise, family, side-hustle
- Childcare: If both partners work, childcare eats huge chunks of the lower earner's salary
- Wardrobe depreciation: Suits, dress shoes, corporate attire that you wouldn't otherwise buy
- Car depreciation: 15,000+ work miles/year accelerates vehicle wear significantly